So many of you have experienced a division of a family unit and grieved over the extreme loss after divorce or death. So many of your kind, genuine, soft souls have been hardened by giving marriage or long term relationships every ounce of your existence and being left with nothing except pain, resentment and loneliness. The new frontier of co-parenting your beautiful, innocent children is a new maze yet to be figured out. Epecially, with a person who you have very little trust or faith in.
In all of this new and awkward territory, I have found my mentally, fragile self growing stronger than I’ve ever been before. I’m rediscovering my female independence and sexuality that has been repressed by every type of abuse for 17 years. My brain is slowly untangling the stringy, web of manipulation and cruelty I’ve endured for so long.
I have had a comforting, handmade quilt wrapped around me along this journey from my closest friends and family who truly love me just the way I am. I was frozen, unable to feel, numb to my existence. With the purest positivity and genuine kindness from those I love, I am able to not only make it through the forrest fire, but come out on the other side with fresh, new growth and a solid perspective on what my life should truly be. I have always been there, as a rock to hang onto in a storm, for those I love deeply. I took pride in that, as a soft place to land, to comfort friends and family in troubled times. Now, unexpectedly, I needed them! I had to be suffering, uncomfortable, vulnerable, helpless and hurting and rely on the strong arms of my loved ones and God himself to see me through to the other side. The most valuable lesson I’ve learned through this recent life change of divorce, grieving the loss of a family unit and putting myself in my very own divorce-rehab, is that I am LOVED! Because of all the concern and support from my closest loved ones, I’ve been able to minimize my stress level and allow myself to be gently cared for (not the easiest thing for me)They alone have healed my pain with their understanding to the point I have no need to mask my suffering. I’m high on life!
I cannot express enough, the gratitude I feel! I feel gratitude to the point of tears streaming down my face at this very moment! I feel gratitude to God for taking my hand and helping me cut through the worn out, leather barrier suffocating my existence. I’m so grateful to come out on the other side at peace with myself, my loved ones, my past and my future and most of all my children’s future.❤️ I’ve accepted that I am worthy of being happy, cherished, complete and in charge of my own destiny!
This brings me to the menacing, overwhelming emotion of fear….fear of loving, fear of being burnt once again.The past scars are slowly healing. Slight rejuvenation has begun…BUT, Can I actually trust and love again? Can I enjoy life once again on my own terms? Am I able to absorb every single moment for exactly what it is and be fulfilled in that solitary single second, not worrying about tomorrow, or next week, or next year…,
YES, YES, YES….I can!!!!! I WILL! I am choosing a direction of positivity!
Now, what do I do about my repressed, now resurfacing, sexual desires? Do I have meaningless sexual encounters? Do I initiate shopping for a new lover online, exactly like I would a Christmas gift on Amazon. Do I get involved in church again and hope I meet a person who believes in God and is a social drinker? Should I go to work at Hooters? Should I sit in a corner alone in meditation and hope a wonderful person drops from the heavens into the silk pillow on my lap ?
It’s uncharted territory to say the least…
…Man Plans, God Laughs, so I’ve been warned by a good friend….
As the Cheshire Cat from Alice In Wonderland would say,” Where are you going, Alice?”
“I don’t know”, replies Alice.
“Then it doesn’t matter, Alice, If you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there!”
The adventure of the unknown is extraordinary to me!
I am human, I am Holly, I am me and Im FREE!!!! For today that is all that I need to know….I’ll work out the kinks as I move forward along my path of newly, released sexual cravings, divorce, emotional-rehab and grieving a past life….
My most sincere thanks to my truest of true, blue loved ones, who without them, I probably would not be sane or alive and well today…April, Micah, Valerie, Jennifer H., Christina, Karen, Kim, Moncef, Jeffrey, Jennifer B., Clara, Lance, Most recently, Daniel J. M. And last but not least…..my momma (although you have no access to this because mommas don’t need to know everything) All my love and gratitude to you all! Each and every one of you have helped me regain strength to go rescue that girl I used to be! Nothing will ever replace the kindness, support and LOVE you have given.
OUT OF THE ASHES! Forrest fire -Regrowth-ultimate strength!